Be a bit more laid back; you’re too serious
You’re at an age where flirting about and having meaningless conversations is worthless. You’d rather have a sincere conversation with someone who’s quite possibly a future partner than with someone who means nothing more than a waste of a few minutes of your time. You want a gutsy man who’ll stick with you through thick and thin and well.
That makes you way too serious of a person. You consider your needs and think about whether you need a simple ‘hey’ at 2 am or a have a ‘good day’ 7 am. You prefer reassurance over passing time and you don’t need someone holding back your productivity. You’re serious about your life and your ambitions and what you need.
Your standards are way too high
You demand time. You don’t want a relationship where you barely see your partner, you want to spend time with them, exploring your likes and overcoming your fears. You want small minute phone calls just to check up on each other and how each other’s day was. You just want a few minutes of their time.
You can’t stand a relationship where the other doesn’t hold interest in you. your passions, your work, your feelings and your ambitions, you want to share them, you want to console them with their fears but want to be consoled for your own as well. When you’re feeling under the weather, you want them to listen to your cries and hear you out; give you reassurance that you’ll make it through the day.
You want them to notice the little things. How you like your coffee, your favorite animations and you want them to acknowledge your achievements in life. It’s not attraction you want, its interest. The kind of interest that makes them smiles at your lam puns.
You accept them, their flaws, their past and their stories no matter how dark and deep they may be and hence you demand they do the same. You want them to accept your scars and sorrows and demons just as you do theirs.
But you ask for too much, your standards and demands are mere this and that’s to them. You may try to fulfil their needs but you’re too high maintenance for them. Your needs are too unimportant for them. Time they can’t spare, interest? They have enough on their plates and acceptance? Nope, why aren’t you a Greek goddess molded to their exact desires?В – Continue reading on next page
Flings aren’t your thing
They are horrible at providing what you desire from them. They don’t do commitment or sincerity. It’s not their thing. Conversations about the future about more than just the now and about more than just the party at a friend’s place.
They seek entertainment for when they are bored but you seek sincerity and truthfulness. You talk about your dreams and passions and they just want dates, no strings attached. You have time for what they aren’t willing to give and you don’t have time for what they are.
Your levels of commitment are on different ends of a spectrum.
You think about more than just the now
You say ‘future’, they say ‘I’m leaving to get some ice-cream’В and never come back. They run for the hills.
You think of the future. You plan at least the next six months. They can’t even plan the next six days. It’s living vs. living for the now. Marriage? Commitment? Nope.
To expect a future with him is to expect a squirrel to do advanced physics not that probable close to impossible.
Settling and commitment aren’tВ theВ things you want immediately but you do want them in the future. That terrifies them and so does long-term commitment. Freedom. Exploration. Living’ that’s what he wants. But he wants you to have none of them he wants you to have him and he wants to do whatever he wants for a long time.В – Continue reading on next page
You’re low priority
If he can’t spare time for you he doesn’t want to. He should make time for you, not spare a few minutes. You are not important enough to him. You’re someone on the side that isn’t as important as his business or as his friends or as his lifestyle. And you can’t accept that. You demand significance and care and he could care less about what you want.В
You’re not liked by them
No explanation necessary. It’s how life is, sometimes they want you and sometimes they don’t.
You don’t deserve a boy.
You don’t deserve a boy and you definitely don’t need one, what you need is a man with balanced priorities. Loyalty, consistency, responsibility should be his priorities regarding you and your future. You’re not his play thing. Your standards and who you are first priority. You don’t need to lower yourself just to feel secure in your future. You’re not meant for a boy, he’s just a boy, you were meant for a man, a good man who’s willing to hold your heart without intentions of throwing it away or losing interest in it. Your worth is undeniable and he will understand.
Standards are great but keeping mind not to have standards so high and ridiculous they’re meaningless. Don’t go around demanding Adonis. And it won’t hurt to have fun sometimes either. If you’re not someone who actually understands the demands of this list? You’re someone far from mature.
Settling down isn’t compulsory, neither is partying nor playing around, but human beings are not toys. Treat them well and consider their feelings.